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2 months ago
President Donald Trump signed an executive order Monday revoking the security clearances of 50 former intelligence officials, most of whom Republicans have accused of coordinating with Joe Biden's 2020 White House campaign.
All but one of the former intelligence officials signed a 2020 letter that said the public release of emails that reportedly belonged to Hunter Biden had "all the classic earmarks of a Russian information operation." Trump also revoked the clearance of his former national security adviser, John Bolton, who became a vocal critic.
The letter signers Trump targeted include former Director of National Intelligence James Clapper, an intelligence official who worked for Republican and Democratic administrations; former CIA Director Michael Hayden, who led the department under former President George W. Bush; his successor in Barack Obama's administration, Leon Panetta; and John Brennan, who held the role for much of Obama's second term.
All but one of the former intelligence officials signed a 2020 letter that said the public release of emails that reportedly belonged to Hunter Biden had "all the classic earmarks of a Russian information operation." Trump also revoked the clearance of his former national security adviser, John Bolton, who became a vocal critic.
The letter signers Trump targeted include former Director of National Intelligence James Clapper, an intelligence official who worked for Republican and Democratic administrations; former CIA Director Michael Hayden, who led the department under former President George W. Bush; his successor in Barack Obama's administration, Leon Panetta; and John Brennan, who held the role for much of Obama's second term.
3 months ago
The fact that Donald Trump had yet another meeting with Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orbán this week was not at all surprising. The Republican has spent an outrageous amount of time publicly celebrating the foreign leader, having private conversations with the Hungarian, and even welcoming Orbán to Mar-a-Lago. The more the prime minister’s authoritarian takeover of his country generated international outrage, the more Trump extended over-the-top support to the prime minister.
Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orban met with President-elect Donald Trump, billionaire Elon Musk and Trump’s pick for national security adviser, Michael Waltz, at Mar-a-Lago on Monday, the European leader announced on social media platform X.
There was no obvious reason for the conspiratorial billionaire to join that conversation, but in the post-election season, it’s been surprisingly common.
John Bolton, “You know, it’s almost like Musk has become vice president.”
Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orban met with President-elect Donald Trump, billionaire Elon Musk and Trump’s pick for national security adviser, Michael Waltz, at Mar-a-Lago on Monday, the European leader announced on social media platform X.
There was no obvious reason for the conspiratorial billionaire to join that conversation, but in the post-election season, it’s been surprisingly common.
John Bolton, “You know, it’s almost like Musk has become vice president.”
4 months ago
Former Trump’s national security adviser John Bolton seemingly brushed off President-elect Trump’s decision to have billionaire Elon Musk join his call with Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky after his 2024 election victory.
“My first reaction when I heard it was, well, so what? What’s unusual about having the Vice President-elect sitting with the President-elect on a call? And then I realized, of course, Elon Musk wasn’t the Vice President-elect,” Bolton said “This is really, I think, typical of Trump.”
“[The] sort of bounds and norms are not Trump’s strength as we know. I wouldn’t get too hyper thyroid about it too quickly, but it’s certainly not a sign that order and stability have suddenly appeared at Mar-a-Lago despite what everybody is talking about, about these early appointments,” he added
Trump has spoken with a number of world leaders.
Zelensky said the call was a “productive conversation, a good conversation.”
“My first reaction when I heard it was, well, so what? What’s unusual about having the Vice President-elect sitting with the President-elect on a call? And then I realized, of course, Elon Musk wasn’t the Vice President-elect,” Bolton said “This is really, I think, typical of Trump.”
“[The] sort of bounds and norms are not Trump’s strength as we know. I wouldn’t get too hyper thyroid about it too quickly, but it’s certainly not a sign that order and stability have suddenly appeared at Mar-a-Lago despite what everybody is talking about, about these early appointments,” he added
Trump has spoken with a number of world leaders.
Zelensky said the call was a “productive conversation, a good conversation.”
5 months ago
Surviving Hamas leaders ‘dead men walking’: Son of Hamas founder.
A man who was raised to be a terrorist but turned his back on Hamas says the death of Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar “is not the end of the war.” Mosab Hassan Yousef.
“My eyes are on Tehran, the head of the snake,” said Yousef, the son of a Hamas founder who spent years undercover for Israel.
“It’s the responsibility of every free person in the world to put an end (to) this Islamic Republic (Iran). As long as he (the ayatollah) is alive, we are going to have a problem in the Middle East.”
Yousef believes that the best way for Gazans and Israelis to finally eliminate Hamas. Let the Egyptian army hunt down Hamas in Gaza and the hostages.
Gazans want to be free of Hamas and “36 years of slavery to a sick ideology.”
Bolton calls death of Hamas leader ‘a good day for the whole world’
Yousef also said that whoever replaces Sinwar won’t do so for very long.
“Anybody who is going to replace Sinwar is going to d
A man who was raised to be a terrorist but turned his back on Hamas says the death of Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar “is not the end of the war.” Mosab Hassan Yousef.
“My eyes are on Tehran, the head of the snake,” said Yousef, the son of a Hamas founder who spent years undercover for Israel.
“It’s the responsibility of every free person in the world to put an end (to) this Islamic Republic (Iran). As long as he (the ayatollah) is alive, we are going to have a problem in the Middle East.”
Yousef believes that the best way for Gazans and Israelis to finally eliminate Hamas. Let the Egyptian army hunt down Hamas in Gaza and the hostages.
Gazans want to be free of Hamas and “36 years of slavery to a sick ideology.”
Bolton calls death of Hamas leader ‘a good day for the whole world’
Yousef also said that whoever replaces Sinwar won’t do so for very long.
“Anybody who is going to replace Sinwar is going to d
9 months ago
China's Xi accused the US of trying to trick him into invading Taiwan, but said he won't take the bait, report says.....
Xi Jinping accused the US of trying to trick China into invading Taiwan, the Financial Times said.
The Chinese leader made the claim to European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen, per the FT.
One expert told BI it's a sign that China is "genuinely surprised" by the attitude of US officials.
China's leader, Xi Jinping, accused the US of trying to trick China into invading Taiwan but said his country wouldn't take the bait, the Financial Times reported, citing people familiar with the matter.
The FT said Xi made the accusation in April last year during a meeting with European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen.
Xi has issued the same warning to officials in his own country, one person told the FT, but this is first known case of him making the claim to a foreign leader, the outlet said.
During the meeting, according to a press statement released at the time, Xi said Taiwan was at the "core" of China's interests, adding: "If anyone expects China to compromise and concede on the Taiwan question, they are having a pipe dream and would shoot themselves in the foot."
Xi's accusation against the US wasn't featured in the statement.
For decades, the US has adopted "strategic ambiguity" toward Taiwan, positioning itself as the country's most steadfast ally, while declining to explicitly say whether it would come to Taiwan's aid if China attacked.
But the mood in Washington, DC, seems to be shifting, with Congress showing itself more "overtly supportive of Taiwan than only a few years ago," Graeme Thompson, an analyst with the Eurasia Group, told Business Insider in November.
Last month, a US congressional delegation met with senior Taiwanese officials to discuss US-Taiwan relations a few days after China conducted military drills around the island.
During the visit, Rep. Andy Barr, a cochair of the Taiwan caucus in Congress, said there should be "no doubt" and "no skepticism" in the US, Taiwan, or anywhere else around "American resolve to maintain the status quo and peace in the Taiwan Strait," according to the Associated Press.
President Joe Biden has repeatedly said that the US would defend Taiwan.
Kerry Brown, the director of the Lau China Institute at King's College London, told BI that Xi's reported accusation is a sign that China is "genuinely surprised" and "shocked" by the US's more recent "aggressiveness."
"The US has plenty of public figures now talking of Taiwan like it is a new Ukraine, and some even saying it needs to be diplomatically recognized," Brown added.
Mike Pompeo, the secretary of state during the Trump administration, and John Bolton, a former national security advisor, are among those calling for such a measure.
This is a problem for China, Brown said, as it's "clearly a red line and one that it will need to do something about if it is crossed."
During a meeting in April, China's foreign minister, Wang Yi, told US Secretary of State Antony Blinken not to cross China's "red lines" on sovereignty, security, and development interests.
Brown, who served as first secretary at the UK Embassy in Beijing from 2000 to 2003, said that behind Xi's "complaint" was the hope that other Western allies "might just calm the US down."
Whether it will have any impact is another matter, he added.
Last week, Adm. Samuel Paparo, the top US admiral in the Pacific, told The Washington Post that the US could deploy thousands of drones if China invaded Taiwan, with the "unmanned hellscape" buying time for the US military to come to Taiwan's aid.
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Xi Jinping accused the US of trying to trick China into invading Taiwan, the Financial Times said.
The Chinese leader made the claim to European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen, per the FT.
One expert told BI it's a sign that China is "genuinely surprised" by the attitude of US officials.
China's leader, Xi Jinping, accused the US of trying to trick China into invading Taiwan but said his country wouldn't take the bait, the Financial Times reported, citing people familiar with the matter.
The FT said Xi made the accusation in April last year during a meeting with European Commission President Ursula von der Leyen.
Xi has issued the same warning to officials in his own country, one person told the FT, but this is first known case of him making the claim to a foreign leader, the outlet said.
During the meeting, according to a press statement released at the time, Xi said Taiwan was at the "core" of China's interests, adding: "If anyone expects China to compromise and concede on the Taiwan question, they are having a pipe dream and would shoot themselves in the foot."
Xi's accusation against the US wasn't featured in the statement.
For decades, the US has adopted "strategic ambiguity" toward Taiwan, positioning itself as the country's most steadfast ally, while declining to explicitly say whether it would come to Taiwan's aid if China attacked.
But the mood in Washington, DC, seems to be shifting, with Congress showing itself more "overtly supportive of Taiwan than only a few years ago," Graeme Thompson, an analyst with the Eurasia Group, told Business Insider in November.
Last month, a US congressional delegation met with senior Taiwanese officials to discuss US-Taiwan relations a few days after China conducted military drills around the island.
During the visit, Rep. Andy Barr, a cochair of the Taiwan caucus in Congress, said there should be "no doubt" and "no skepticism" in the US, Taiwan, or anywhere else around "American resolve to maintain the status quo and peace in the Taiwan Strait," according to the Associated Press.
President Joe Biden has repeatedly said that the US would defend Taiwan.
Kerry Brown, the director of the Lau China Institute at King's College London, told BI that Xi's reported accusation is a sign that China is "genuinely surprised" and "shocked" by the US's more recent "aggressiveness."
"The US has plenty of public figures now talking of Taiwan like it is a new Ukraine, and some even saying it needs to be diplomatically recognized," Brown added.
Mike Pompeo, the secretary of state during the Trump administration, and John Bolton, a former national security advisor, are among those calling for such a measure.
This is a problem for China, Brown said, as it's "clearly a red line and one that it will need to do something about if it is crossed."
During a meeting in April, China's foreign minister, Wang Yi, told US Secretary of State Antony Blinken not to cross China's "red lines" on sovereignty, security, and development interests.
Brown, who served as first secretary at the UK Embassy in Beijing from 2000 to 2003, said that behind Xi's "complaint" was the hope that other Western allies "might just calm the US down."
Whether it will have any impact is another matter, he added.
Last week, Adm. Samuel Paparo, the top US admiral in the Pacific, told The Washington Post that the US could deploy thousands of drones if China invaded Taiwan, with the "unmanned hellscape" buying time for the US military to come to Taiwan's aid.
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9 months ago
1v1 Showdown! F-35 Pilots Conduct ‘High-G Dogfights’ Against Rafales, Eurofighters At Ramstein Air Base..........
Thirty-seven fighter aircraft, including fourth and fifth-generation models, representing nine NATO nations, recently participated in High-G aerial combat drills at Ramstein Air Base.
The first-of-its-kind event, hosted by the US Air Force in Europe. Africa (USAFE-AFAFRICA) on June 6, centered on refining basic fighter maneuvers (BFM).
The “Ramstein 1v1” event brought pilots from the US, United Kingdom, Norway, Netherlands, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, France, and Germany for a full day of basic fighter maneuvers (BFM), commonly known as “dogfighting.”
This competition highlighted rapid decision-making and sharp responses to adversaries, where split-second moves could determine life or death. The participating aircraft included F-35A Lightning IIs, F-16 Fighting Falcons, Eurofighter Typhoons, French Rafales, F/A-18 Hornets, and A-4 Skyhawks.
The exercise marked a significant milestone for US Air Forces in Europe, transforming Ramstein, typically a military airlift hub, into a fighter base for the day.
“Basic fighter maneuvering, sometimes called dogfighting, is a foundational skill set for fighter pilots,” said Lt. Col. Michael Loringer, US Air Forces in Europe: Air Forces Africa chief of weapons and tactics.
“It tests a pilot’s reaction time, physical stamina, and situational awareness. BFM is a coveted and timeless skillset, dating back to the first fighter pilots of World War I. There is no better way to build trust in a pilot’s aircraft or a pilot’s skills than to engage in a one-on-one BFM fight,” Loringer added.
Apart from offering a platform to showcase their abilities in an unconventional environment, the exercise fostered camaraderie and unity among allies by facilitating the exchange of tactics, techniques, and experiences, thus reinforcing NATO’s shared determination.
Further, it served as a valuable opportunity for the US and its allies to glean insights from each other, nurturing teamwork in a controlled setting and improving communication and interoperability.
The US Air Force said, “Ramstein 1v1 is a prime example of the 86th AW mission: defend U.S. interests, project power, and enable the Global Gateway. Exercises like Ramstein 1v1 not only strengthen the Global Gateway but also boost combat readiness among participating nations and their ability to swiftly respond to emerging threats in the Euro-Atlantic region.”
Navigating The Challenges
The intense 1v1 aerial battles push both aircraft and pilots to their limits, highlighting the extreme physical and technical demands of modern air combat.
Modern fighter jets, capable of reaching speeds over 1,500 miles per hour, can exert forces up to nine times the force of gravity, or 9 Gs, on their pilots. At such high acceleration, the human body faces immense challenges.
The force can overwhelm the heart’s ability to pump blood to the brain, potentially causing pilots to black out within seconds if not properly moderated.
“In a fighter jet, you’re sweating, you’re breathing through an inch-wide oxygen tube, balancing a gamut of controls and devices, all the while pushing your body to its absolute limits,” explained Col. (ret.) Cesar “Rico.” Rodriguez, a former United States Air Force A-10 Thunderbolt II and F-15 Eagle pilot, was at the event. “The threat of passing out at the controls is incredibly real.”
Rodriguez, known for downing three Mikoyan-Gurevich MiG-21s, emphasized the grueling conditions in a fighter jet cockpit. He stressed the importance of humility in fighter pilots, stating that the best pilots continuously seek improvement.
He noted the perpetual evolution in mastering aircraft and maneuvers, highlighting the readiness displayed in joint-nation exercises like the one held at Ramstein Air Base, Germany.
The teamwork showcased at Ramstein 1v1 was further evidenced as US Airmen stationed at RAF Lakenheath, UK, provided maintenance support for the Royal Norwegian Air Force F-35A Lightning II jets, bolstering both US national security and NATO’s collective defense efforts.
“This event provided a prime opportunity to hone our skills, and it made a fun experience to build cooperation and camaraderie amongst all the participants,” Loringer said.
“We are not just NATO allies, but a community bound by genuine friendship and respect. I emphasize this point because successful military operations require exceptional teamwork, often critical to survival. And as a pilot, it boils down to trust. It’s crucial to trust your wingman,” Loringer added.
The exercise concluded with a symbolic piano burning, honoring fallen fighter pilots, echoing a tradition from World War II.
Thirty-seven fighter aircraft, including fourth and fifth-generation models, representing nine NATO nations, recently participated in High-G aerial combat drills at Ramstein Air Base.
The first-of-its-kind event, hosted by the US Air Force in Europe. Africa (USAFE-AFAFRICA) on June 6, centered on refining basic fighter maneuvers (BFM).
The “Ramstein 1v1” event brought pilots from the US, United Kingdom, Norway, Netherlands, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, France, and Germany for a full day of basic fighter maneuvers (BFM), commonly known as “dogfighting.”
This competition highlighted rapid decision-making and sharp responses to adversaries, where split-second moves could determine life or death. The participating aircraft included F-35A Lightning IIs, F-16 Fighting Falcons, Eurofighter Typhoons, French Rafales, F/A-18 Hornets, and A-4 Skyhawks.
The exercise marked a significant milestone for US Air Forces in Europe, transforming Ramstein, typically a military airlift hub, into a fighter base for the day.
“Basic fighter maneuvering, sometimes called dogfighting, is a foundational skill set for fighter pilots,” said Lt. Col. Michael Loringer, US Air Forces in Europe: Air Forces Africa chief of weapons and tactics.
“It tests a pilot’s reaction time, physical stamina, and situational awareness. BFM is a coveted and timeless skillset, dating back to the first fighter pilots of World War I. There is no better way to build trust in a pilot’s aircraft or a pilot’s skills than to engage in a one-on-one BFM fight,” Loringer added.
Apart from offering a platform to showcase their abilities in an unconventional environment, the exercise fostered camaraderie and unity among allies by facilitating the exchange of tactics, techniques, and experiences, thus reinforcing NATO’s shared determination.
Further, it served as a valuable opportunity for the US and its allies to glean insights from each other, nurturing teamwork in a controlled setting and improving communication and interoperability.
The US Air Force said, “Ramstein 1v1 is a prime example of the 86th AW mission: defend U.S. interests, project power, and enable the Global Gateway. Exercises like Ramstein 1v1 not only strengthen the Global Gateway but also boost combat readiness among participating nations and their ability to swiftly respond to emerging threats in the Euro-Atlantic region.”
Navigating The Challenges
The intense 1v1 aerial battles push both aircraft and pilots to their limits, highlighting the extreme physical and technical demands of modern air combat.
Modern fighter jets, capable of reaching speeds over 1,500 miles per hour, can exert forces up to nine times the force of gravity, or 9 Gs, on their pilots. At such high acceleration, the human body faces immense challenges.
The force can overwhelm the heart’s ability to pump blood to the brain, potentially causing pilots to black out within seconds if not properly moderated.
“In a fighter jet, you’re sweating, you’re breathing through an inch-wide oxygen tube, balancing a gamut of controls and devices, all the while pushing your body to its absolute limits,” explained Col. (ret.) Cesar “Rico.” Rodriguez, a former United States Air Force A-10 Thunderbolt II and F-15 Eagle pilot, was at the event. “The threat of passing out at the controls is incredibly real.”
Rodriguez, known for downing three Mikoyan-Gurevich MiG-21s, emphasized the grueling conditions in a fighter jet cockpit. He stressed the importance of humility in fighter pilots, stating that the best pilots continuously seek improvement.
He noted the perpetual evolution in mastering aircraft and maneuvers, highlighting the readiness displayed in joint-nation exercises like the one held at Ramstein Air Base, Germany.
The teamwork showcased at Ramstein 1v1 was further evidenced as US Airmen stationed at RAF Lakenheath, UK, provided maintenance support for the Royal Norwegian Air Force F-35A Lightning II jets, bolstering both US national security and NATO’s collective defense efforts.
“This event provided a prime opportunity to hone our skills, and it made a fun experience to build cooperation and camaraderie amongst all the participants,” Loringer said.
“We are not just NATO allies, but a community bound by genuine friendship and respect. I emphasize this point because successful military operations require exceptional teamwork, often critical to survival. And as a pilot, it boils down to trust. It’s crucial to trust your wingman,” Loringer added.
The exercise concluded with a symbolic piano burning, honoring fallen fighter pilots, echoing a tradition from World War II.
10 months ago
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‘Superior’ To F-35 — A-10 Warthogs Escort Ballistic Missile Submarine ‘Nebraska’ In Never Seen Before Pics
Inching towards retirement, the U.S. Air Force’s A-10 Thunderbolt II ‘Warthog’ had an unusual sighting. Four ‘Tank Killer’ and Close Air Support (CAS) aircraft were seen escorting a U.S. Navy’s Ohio class ballistic submarine USS Nebraska. The mission of the Warthog was unclear, but the photographs of the quartet of A-10s hovering over the USS...
‘Superior’ To F-35 — A-10 Warthogs Escort Ballistic Missile Submarine ‘Nebraska’ In Never Seen Before Pics
Inching towards retirement, the U.S. Air Force’s A-10 Thunderbolt II ‘Warthog’ had an unusual sighting. Four ‘Tank Killer’ and Close Air Support (CAS) aircraft were seen escorting a U.S. Navy’s Ohio class ballistic submarine USS Nebraska. The mission of the Warthog was unclear, but the photographs of the quartet of A-10s hovering over the USS...
10 months ago
SEX-
How to Get in the Mood for Sex Even if You Aren't Feeling It.
Understand and practice the two types of sexual desire.
It’s a lazy Sunday morning. The kids are away. You wake up, enjoy a luxurious stretch, and then you lovingly reach for your tablet instead of your partner.
Remember when you first shared a bed with the person you desired? Back then, when you drifted up to consciousness, you’d immediately notice the warmth of your snoozing sweetheart. Your thoughts would quickly turn to love, and your body would swiftly follow with arousal. You traced their spine with gentle fingertips, watching as they stirred awake. Your lover smiled and turned toward you with a sparkle in their eyes and a kiss waiting on their lips.
These days, instead of waking up thinking about making love, you’re thinking about making coffee. And that is normal, as you can see see in this video.
https://youtu.be/OWulxoNFv...
There are actually two types of sexual desire. If you rely exclusively on the first type of desire, your lazy Sunday in bed will never turn into a sexy Sunday in bed. If you long to re-ignite lost passion, you must learn to cultivate the second type of desire. Here’s how.
Spontaneous desire is that “I can’t wait to rip your clothes off” feeling. When you were dating, a kiss goodnight was enough to send desire and arousal flooding through your body and mind, wasn’t it? Your tongues touched, and boom, biochemical lightning bolts collided with a psychological longing to create a storm of instant and easy passion.
Remember how glorious that was?
I say “was”—past tense—because, according to research (and your own experience), the vast majority of couples lose spontaneous desire over time. When I teach this concept to couples in my online Become Passion program, I say, “If you are in a long-term relationship, I want you to think of spontaneous desire as a teenager who spontaneously offers to clean the garage for you. It’s rare, it’s wonderful, and when it happens, I want you to enjoy the heck out of it. But you definitely shouldn’t count on it.”
That brings us to responsive desire. What does responsive mean? Quite simply, it's something that occurs in response to something else. So your teen cleans the garage in response to you offering to pay for their cell phone bill if they do a good job.
Now, let’s look at a sexier example: How about we revisit that lazy Sunday morning? In this version, you wake up, stretch, and think about checking the news or grabbing a coffee. Your sweetheart sits up in bed, trying to decide between a shower and a bagel. Neither of you is thinking about sex nor feeling turned on. In other words, there is no spontaneous desire.
However, what can happen if one of you says, “Hey babe, how about we make love?”
Ahh. Now, you are tapping into the potential of responsive desire. Even though you are not in the mood, you choose to be open to exploring. Perhaps you start with a naked cuddle. You nuzzle and nibble necks. Maybe you reach into the bedside drawer for some massage oil to drizzle and caress. As you play, your body and mind begin to pay attention and respond. You mindfully create desire by taking action.
Don’t just take my word for it; check in with your own experience. Is it accurate to suggest that you are rarely swept up in spontaneous lust these days? If so, take heart. You are not broken or with the wrong person. Now that you understand responsive desire, you can choose to make your sexual life intentional and focus on this second type of erotic appetizer: responsive desire.
One of the many beautiful aspects of long-term love is learning new ways to explore eroticism together. Don’t wait for passion. Instead, choose to become passionate.
I want to challenge you to create circumstances throughout the day that encourage desire. Text a lusty note to your partner. Hug more often. Tease a little. Be kind. Bank the coals so that it is easier for the spark of desire to respond. Then, go to bed together a little early tonight or linger in bed a little longer tomorrow morning. The coffee and bagel can wait.
How to Get in the Mood for Sex Even if You Aren't Feeling It.
Understand and practice the two types of sexual desire.
It’s a lazy Sunday morning. The kids are away. You wake up, enjoy a luxurious stretch, and then you lovingly reach for your tablet instead of your partner.
Remember when you first shared a bed with the person you desired? Back then, when you drifted up to consciousness, you’d immediately notice the warmth of your snoozing sweetheart. Your thoughts would quickly turn to love, and your body would swiftly follow with arousal. You traced their spine with gentle fingertips, watching as they stirred awake. Your lover smiled and turned toward you with a sparkle in their eyes and a kiss waiting on their lips.
These days, instead of waking up thinking about making love, you’re thinking about making coffee. And that is normal, as you can see see in this video.
https://youtu.be/OWulxoNFv...
There are actually two types of sexual desire. If you rely exclusively on the first type of desire, your lazy Sunday in bed will never turn into a sexy Sunday in bed. If you long to re-ignite lost passion, you must learn to cultivate the second type of desire. Here’s how.
Spontaneous desire is that “I can’t wait to rip your clothes off” feeling. When you were dating, a kiss goodnight was enough to send desire and arousal flooding through your body and mind, wasn’t it? Your tongues touched, and boom, biochemical lightning bolts collided with a psychological longing to create a storm of instant and easy passion.
Remember how glorious that was?
I say “was”—past tense—because, according to research (and your own experience), the vast majority of couples lose spontaneous desire over time. When I teach this concept to couples in my online Become Passion program, I say, “If you are in a long-term relationship, I want you to think of spontaneous desire as a teenager who spontaneously offers to clean the garage for you. It’s rare, it’s wonderful, and when it happens, I want you to enjoy the heck out of it. But you definitely shouldn’t count on it.”
That brings us to responsive desire. What does responsive mean? Quite simply, it's something that occurs in response to something else. So your teen cleans the garage in response to you offering to pay for their cell phone bill if they do a good job.
Now, let’s look at a sexier example: How about we revisit that lazy Sunday morning? In this version, you wake up, stretch, and think about checking the news or grabbing a coffee. Your sweetheart sits up in bed, trying to decide between a shower and a bagel. Neither of you is thinking about sex nor feeling turned on. In other words, there is no spontaneous desire.
However, what can happen if one of you says, “Hey babe, how about we make love?”
Ahh. Now, you are tapping into the potential of responsive desire. Even though you are not in the mood, you choose to be open to exploring. Perhaps you start with a naked cuddle. You nuzzle and nibble necks. Maybe you reach into the bedside drawer for some massage oil to drizzle and caress. As you play, your body and mind begin to pay attention and respond. You mindfully create desire by taking action.
Don’t just take my word for it; check in with your own experience. Is it accurate to suggest that you are rarely swept up in spontaneous lust these days? If so, take heart. You are not broken or with the wrong person. Now that you understand responsive desire, you can choose to make your sexual life intentional and focus on this second type of erotic appetizer: responsive desire.
One of the many beautiful aspects of long-term love is learning new ways to explore eroticism together. Don’t wait for passion. Instead, choose to become passionate.
I want to challenge you to create circumstances throughout the day that encourage desire. Text a lusty note to your partner. Hug more often. Tease a little. Be kind. Bank the coals so that it is easier for the spark of desire to respond. Then, go to bed together a little early tonight or linger in bed a little longer tomorrow morning. The coffee and bagel can wait.